How to Speak Wisely!

Whether you’re single or married, learning “tongue-control” is something we all need to practice.  If you’re married, the need to learn this starts before the wedding and continues until death do us part!

“Miscommunication is a relational minefield in many marriages” (and in all relationships). I quote this true statement in my book, Why Can’t He be More Like Me? Why? Because I’ve experienced it.  Life gets difficult when we say things that others don’t appreciate or hurts them, but what are we to do?  We have three choices:

1.     Don’t say anything.  Learn to zip your lips, as I’ve had to many times!

2.     Say what you want to say, regardless of the negative fallout.

3.     Train yourself to think about how you’d feel if someone spoke to you in that way.

Whether your verbal trip ups are directed toward friends or family members, here are 4 tips for tongue control.  These are truths I need to remember, and maybe you do, too?

1.     Tell yourself the truth: YOU CAN learn to think before you speak!

2.     Pray for God’s help to notice what you’re about to say and NOT to respond without thinking.

3.     Make a decision NOW not to say what isn’t helpful or could create negative feelings.

4.     Cultivate listening, reflecting on YOUR reaction, and choosing to speak ONLY what builds up or nourishes the person and your relationship,

I hope this helps you practice “tongue-control” and avoid the “Open mouth, insert foot” syndrome and all the strained relationships that result. (P.S. There is a time to share your viewpoint, but that’s another post!)

If you need help with some of these issues, Message me here or email. poppy@poppysmith.com

Blessings,

Poppy Smith